How We Got Here
Ajay and I have been trying to add to our family for ~five years. We traveled through the looong journey of infertility treatments - tests, procedures, medications, surgeries (could fill an entire blog with that information!). Nothing worked and it was time to move on.
Luckily, both Ajay and I have always been interested in adopting a child (or children). We had even discussed this interest prior to getting married.
In February of 2005, we made the decision to begin a new journey - one with a brighter light at the end of the tunnel! We researched and decided that we would adopt from India, using Dillon International Adoption Agency.
In April, we began the arduous process of completing paperwork, filing gov't forms, having our backgrounds checked thru police and FBI, home study interviews, adoption and parenting eduction classes, etcetcetc.
This process did move along relatively quickly for us - no major snags. It did take us forever to complete our Dossier (the compilation of documents to be sent to India). We needed documents notarized by notaries in several different states - some then needed authenticated by the County Clerk - and then all of them needed to be authenticated by the Secretary of State in all of those states. I swear, we must have paid somewhere between $3,000 - $5,000 for FedEx shipping of envelopes back and forth!
Our poor FedEx delivery guy - we kept him busy!
Our Dossier was finally completed in late October, 2005... and on it's way to India!
Yay! We were finally on the list!
Around the time that we were completing our dossier, we rec'd the referral of a waiting baby in India. It was a baby boy named Prasun. We reviewed his medical information and thought that his special needs would be managable. We considered accepting him and were very excited.
Unfortunately, we got a bit emotionally involved too quickly. After a couple of weeks, we received new photos and information about the baby. It turned out that his special needs were much more severe than we were initially informed. After much consideration and prayer, we decided that he was not a fit for our family - nor were we a fit for him. We, unfortunately, were not able to accept him.
Though that process was horridly painful for us, it also taught us to slow down and not get immediately emotionally invested. This is not an easy thing to do when you have been waiting so long to have a child!
Luckily, at that point, our dossier was in India and we were now #1 on Dillon's NRI (non-resident indian) waiting list. Hopefully it would not be too long of a wait!
Luckily, both Ajay and I have always been interested in adopting a child (or children). We had even discussed this interest prior to getting married.
In February of 2005, we made the decision to begin a new journey - one with a brighter light at the end of the tunnel! We researched and decided that we would adopt from India, using Dillon International Adoption Agency.
In April, we began the arduous process of completing paperwork, filing gov't forms, having our backgrounds checked thru police and FBI, home study interviews, adoption and parenting eduction classes, etcetcetc.
This process did move along relatively quickly for us - no major snags. It did take us forever to complete our Dossier (the compilation of documents to be sent to India). We needed documents notarized by notaries in several different states - some then needed authenticated by the County Clerk - and then all of them needed to be authenticated by the Secretary of State in all of those states. I swear, we must have paid somewhere between $3,000 - $5,000 for FedEx shipping of envelopes back and forth!
Our poor FedEx delivery guy - we kept him busy!
Our Dossier was finally completed in late October, 2005... and on it's way to India!
Yay! We were finally on the list!
Around the time that we were completing our dossier, we rec'd the referral of a waiting baby in India. It was a baby boy named Prasun. We reviewed his medical information and thought that his special needs would be managable. We considered accepting him and were very excited.
Unfortunately, we got a bit emotionally involved too quickly. After a couple of weeks, we received new photos and information about the baby. It turned out that his special needs were much more severe than we were initially informed. After much consideration and prayer, we decided that he was not a fit for our family - nor were we a fit for him. We, unfortunately, were not able to accept him.
Though that process was horridly painful for us, it also taught us to slow down and not get immediately emotionally invested. This is not an easy thing to do when you have been waiting so long to have a child!
Luckily, at that point, our dossier was in India and we were now #1 on Dillon's NRI (non-resident indian) waiting list. Hopefully it would not be too long of a wait!
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